Conflicting Minds

The world is one big family. We have our differences, but we have something in common. We are born in families, to cultures that are destined for us. Does that mean we are better than the rest? If all cultures promote the values of good upbringing love peace and united as a family, then we are no different. We seek love and attention if we are deprived of or denied of it. We seek acceptance of being ourselves, changing for the good and not ourselves for others. We live our lives and but we live for others. Our every action and behavior influences our loved ones. We stay with and away from families-joint, nuclear and singles. We miss that every little aspect of sharing and being together. We fail to understand each other because of communication gap, distances and viewpoints that have changes, evolved over time. Transformation has taken place in bits and pieces. We haven’t really thought and made an effort to bridge the gaps. Technology has made conversations happen easier not build ...

We don’t remember what we usually did as little babies, but yes most us would have been gift-wrapped in white linen and handed over to our mothers. Pretty, petite and beautiful that white that signifies purity and elegance. Girls we are and will be, for white is our sign. Mommy usually made me wear the white frock to church. I scanned through my christening and communion photographs with the white dress put on. I always dreamt of the little white dress, very rare and worn at occasions that came once in our lives. And once upon a time in history, the white dress remains untouched. There are times I felt I could have the privilege and honor for once to porte les vetements blanche (to wear the white dress). Faintly knowing that the desire and eagerness of purity vanishes when the wait is long. Although patience takes care of it, the symbol of white is lost somewhere. Just like thoughts get corrupted, so does the white dress, which no fabric was can save, but remains virgin till the da...

I always wondered that freedom came with responsibility, and can vouch for that staying away from home for 6 years. Difficult yes, but not impossible it was. Being independent, standing up on you feet and getting on to your toes to face the challenges. Struggles and odds were part but that never stopped me from going ahead. There are no regrets, these are learnings and mistakes you don’t repeat and move on, if I look back I cherish the good times, the ugly past makes me stagnant and how can I grow. So used to being with myself, it’s not just being in love or obsessed with myself. I learnt the tricks of the trade, well I’m here to love what I do and then make money for my survival. If my passion becomes my profession, I have no interests left. Painting, music, song, dance, writing, oratory, movies, internet, experimenting with making and binging on food & desserts and I’m still slim and healthy. Diseases are all in the mindset-mental, psychological, emotional. I’m physically pre...

Every breath I take, every step I make, and then every mistake. It’s the choice I make. Talking about freedom in the context of making one’s own free choice exists. It is the courage to make take that step of one’s choice. We do make mistakes, but that doesn’t mean we stop making our choices. Choice has to be voiced. It’s freedom given to us with responsibility. And conditions apply. Whether it’s choosing a career or life-partner, buying a house or car, we all have done our research, made mistakes and made it right. Our choice is the reflection of our unfulfilled desires. The way I see it, it makes me feel independent and of course, responsible for my actions and decisions I take. Going with a goal in mind and desire in my heart, Some have been too far-fetched and unreasonable. But haven’t stopped putting efforts in pursuing them. It will materialize some day. It seems illogical to the practical and realistic. I live in a world of making dreams happen. Obstacles are bound to come my...

Ah! Finally I have a story to share, not really a story, could be perceived as news and then give your views. We are not heard is often left unsaid. What I mean is specifically the power of voice. Not that my pitch sounds good or I have to get my adam’s apple to work for me. The gall is my mouth, I have to speak. Wait…don’t push words in my mouth. I have a point to make, sometimes actions speak louder than words. Cheers! With all that 1 pint down my throat, I walk into the boardroom meet to make a point. Hey listen people, I’m here to make a presentation. I haven’t done it, I know, but those sloppy glassed eyes staring at me in tight formals seem so interested in me. I’m the center of attraction, no, no, the center of affliction. I just start with slides not knowing the game of chess, I don’t think when I make a move. No one’s going to say a word or cut me. I blabber till I’m done and now to you experienced looking nerves who wrack their brains and waiting to pounce on me. Now all t...

Welcome to the world of the rulers! Yes, the talkers, and not the doers, and we are here by default. How about a cup of coffee with a stranger? Or exchanging looks with a well-known figure? My point is I come to know you when the wavelength matches well. I ought to know is putting an impression matters all. Why the hard work and all the efforts you put in? If it’s just entertainment and all the tamasha, I shouldn’t be here. A belief in learning, growth and pushing yourself to make things happen. I need support, I need guidance. I have been assigned a job, not a challenge. My job profile describes my duties and responsibilities, it’s what I ought to do. So, what’s different and makes me stand out. I have the knowledge, qualification, expertise, and an urge to prove myself. It’s not that I’m unable to do it; it’s just that the right kind of attitude hasn’t driven it, or improvements haven’t been suggested. A sorry situation ideally! Vacancies aren’t for employment but seem for exploita...

The word ‘Spice’ is very synonymous with us Indians. We associate spice with food and lifestyle, words and stories. ‘Meetha’, ‘namkeen’, ‘chatpata’ and ‘theekha tadka’ do the talking in the way we Indians are. From mixtures of masalas we use in our cuisines to the daily gossips and news in our storytelling and conversations-have it all. Indian curries popular globally have been successful to cater to international tastebuds. With instant ready-to-cook, heat and eat powders, gravies and pastes, life has become much more easier than the time-consuming grinding processes. At the end, it’s the aroma and taste that matters. With a lot of health values seeping in today’s world, ‘multi-grain’ breakfast cereals, sugar-free beverages and light snack crackers are best-sellers for a healthy, tasty diet. Claiming to be healthy and at the same time, maintain the Indian spice is a constant struggle of how to combine taste and health. Kelloggs after a its initial brand failure in the market, made ...

Love is all that makes the world go round and round, in my silence I hear a sound. Ah! Not the usual heartbeat, but to make sure it’s love that’s all I need. Talking about it, relationships and all that hype of it’s a wonderful feeling falling for it or the other way round, never fall for it, it hurts. An in-thing or a trend of being in a relationship or having a break up is today’s mantra. I don’t intend to leave my parents just because I had a fight last night. Trust and understanding is all that is needed. A sense of comfort and loyalty and yes, no matter what ‘Never give up on love’. Why ‘rethink”, it’s time to rebuild’. Does it mean that mistakes, weaknesses, shortcomings and imperfections should be the cause of break ups. Relationships may be long-distant, but separation can’t be the reason to get away or escape. It causes misery and irreparable damages. Heart break is just a term, it breaks you down and life isn’t worth living. Things are not just the same, the barriers man cr...

How ironic to be moronic! When morons rule us at our workplace, it’s tough to stick on. I call it pulling along, struggles and debates on proving one’s worth. To have courage and take a stand, take no blame for doing what is right. The true reason of unemployment is that well qualified, experienced and confident individuals are facing the challenge everyday. The financial security, responsibility and a status of reputed brand, pay package and profile is the concern. A large number of them churning out of B-Schools and attending interviews, stiff competition ahead and guaranteed placements through college isn’t enough. Stress control, deadlines, pressures and dominance make it hard for one to survive. All I need is to learn to deal. The rudeness, the demands and all that expectation of what I’m not is so irritating, that bogged down even before attempts stagnates thinking and growth. A negative sign of why people at executive levels are hard-working than the top bosses. Senior level ma...

How about knowing Aunty Jaspinder’s daughter in Chandigarh without meeting her! Why not? That’s how I met your mother. From Yahoo Messanger to GTalk, from Facebook to Skype and all the hype and buzz created that I’m in a relationship. If not sailing in the ship, it’s cruise for the flirtatious. Blackberrys to Tabs to Androids to every infectious device that technology throws at you, I wouldn’t have been so interested in Jaspinder Aunty’s daughter than I would have out of Facebook. Falling for her by chance and meeting her is so much different that aunties talking about getting us matched. Shaadi.com with all its boring prospects and window-shopping future partners and enough of spectators to dig out reasons of why it didn’t work out. The in and outs of relationships, break-up parties and patching up again is the on-going trend. The day Uncle Danny called, Sunday morning 11 am sharp, he put forth a personal question: Yes, then no inquiries. No, then will take it forward. I said, “Go o...